On helping children use electronic products healthily, I am going to conclude with this article. Let’s talk about the blessings we have been given.
First of all, from my observation, the child’s life is enriched by electronic products. playing games, watching videos, chatting with friends, writing, making pictures, designing games, programming, creating his own website and server… all these make his leisure life busy and fulfilling. I think this is typical of children of this age. What I value more is that he has gradually learned to be alert through discussion and trying in using it, and to judge for himself what suits him and what is right or not.
The attractiveness of electronic products is well known, so complying with the rules is even more challenging. Every time the child uses electronic products, it’s an opportunity for training: stopping when the time is up; communicating with us when there are special circumstances; managing time; balancing study and life. I think he has had a lot of practices and experiences. For example, sometimes because of some special circumstances, he wants to play game first and then do his homework. He will tell me the reason and his plan, and communicate with me. Whether I say “Yes” or “No” , I will thank him for coming to communicate with me and compliment his planning.
One day, he even shared an “unexpected surprise” with me. He told me that playing the game had taught him a lesson: “Don’t give up easily.” He said that there were many times when his chances of winning were almost zero, and even when his partners had given up, he still insisted on it. As a result, the defeat was turned into victory many times. May this lesson take root in his heart and live in his life.
Second, through helping the child use electronic products healthily, our relationship has deepened. The needs of the child and the things they are exposed to are dynamic and changing, which bring new problems. We have gradually formed a way of solving problems together: raising questions, communicating our ideas with each other frankly, discussing, formulating solutions, adjusting, and then adjusting… We open our hearts with sincerity. Many times I find that the child’s perspectives are often unique and he can always come up with good ideas. He has also realized that he still lacks the experience and wisdom of the parents and needs our guidance. On the other hand, as the child broke the rules time and time again, we disciplined him, forgave him, expressed love to him and accepted him time and time again. I believe that he has been feeling our love for him time and time again.
Last, but the most importantly, our faith in God has been strengthened. Making mistakes and forgiven repeatedly, the child has developed deeper understanding of his sins. “For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out.” (Romans 7:18) I remember once, because he broke the rules multiple times in a row, he felt that he just couldn’t help doing wrong. He told me, “Mom, I think I am truly sinful. But we have Jesus. I used to study about Jesus at school every day, but I just treated it as knowledge. Now I know how much I need Jesus to save me. “I was really moved. Thank God for his mercy and guidance. This understanding makes all the efforts and experiences worthwhile.
As for myself, I have gained a lot. From words I have written, it seems that I am a calm and wise mother. However, this is not the case. In reality, I have been struggling and stumbling forward. I have got emotional and anxious. I don’t know how to deal with the matter many times. I am a mother who always needs God’s help and mercy. However, when I look back on my experience along the way, my heart is filled with gratitude. Accompanied by these weaknesses are prayers again and again; with prayers are God’s guidance and help again and again; with God’s guidance and help are feelings of God’s forgiveness, mercy, wisdom and unfailing love again and again.
I often think I am like a grain of sand in a river, small and weak, but God sees me, cherishes me, helps me and loves me. Who else in this world is not what He loves? Who else can he not help? God’s greatest love and power are revealed in the tiniest people and things. Thank God!
I remember hearing a song in the car one day, and there was a line that sings: “I can see You (God) in every little thing, all day.” Hearing it, my son asked me, “Really?” I said, “Yes, as long as you seek God.” He thought for a second, nodded and smiled.
Scripture:
“When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place, what is mankind that you are mindful of them, human beings that you care for them? You have made them a little lower than the angels and crowned them with glory and honor. You made them rulers over the works of your hand; you put everything under their feet: all flocks and herds, and the animals of the wild, the birds in the sky, and the fish in the sea, all that swim the paths of the seas. Lord, our Lord, how majestic is your name in all the earth!” (Psalm 8:3-9)